From blind dates to love notes, these couples offer their advice on how to romance.
Couples married for over 50 years reveal their secrets to a successful marriage
Joel and Helene Kupnick, Arline Willbanks, and Arline Kutnick shared in an interview their secrets to a loving and successful marriage.
In Texas, two couples who have been together for over 50 years share their secrets to a lasting relationship.
Joel Kutnick and Helene Kupnick, Arline Willbanks, Stan Willbanks, and other experts share their tips for finding the love of your lifetime and maintaining romance.
They gave tips on how to avoid being afraid of blind dates and make sure that you spend time together over the years.
Don’t get stuck in the same box with your “type”.
Joel Kutnick acknowledged that he had been “nerdy” when he met Helene. She took a chance on him, saying that a relationship is more than just an initial attraction.
Joel acknowledged that he had been a “nerd” and said, “I can’t even believe she accepted my proposition. ”
Helene responded, “I’ve been trying to de-nerd him for 58 years so it’s working in part. ”
Blind Dates are not scary
Blind dates set up by friends lead both Willbanks and Kutnicks toward “the one”.
Arline said, “I had been invited to spend the weekend at her house by a close friend. “She called back and asked if I would like to have a blind date. “Why not?” I asked myself. ”
Stan admitted, “I said yeah, I thought she was beautiful. “We began dating immediately. We continued to date although she lived 28 miles away. ”
Instead of Facetime, texting, or messaging, write a love note
These two couples’ love letters played a major role in the long-lasting of their marriages.
Helene: “I sent it.” He called me immediately after receiving it. “I returned to Miami, and we met. ”
Stan spoke about his short separation from Arline and the early letters that he wrote to her.
He said the best way [to] [talk] with her would be [to] [just] write a letter.
The Kutnicks continue to go on adventures to discover new things about the world and each other.
Make time to date in your youth and later years.
Both couples say they make date nights a priority, even after 50 years together. They both live in the Hacienda neighborhood, which is a wonderful place to discover new things.
Our compatibility is what keeps our spark alive. We both enjoy new experiences and are not stuck in the mud.
Romanticize little days
We always try to make something special happen together. “He would go on a date with me. Arline remarked, “Those little things matter.”
They suggested they celebrate every holiday, such as Valentine’s Day and birthdays. Every holiday should be special.
Willbanks once said that while happy days can be easy, it is the commitment to those commitments during difficult times that makes them sweeter.
“I think today it’s so easy to break up if something goes wrong. There is no commitment. Our marriage has been through some difficult times, but we have stuck to our promise because we made one. This is important to me.
Helene continued: “Many ideas and values are on the same page. In this day and time, I think it’s very important. We share similar ideas and values. “We’ve been together 58 years. What will I be like at [the age] that I am today? “You must hope you’ll have similar goals. ”
Stan Willbanks and Arline Willbanks still enjoy their relationship.
Pew Research Center reported that nearly half of the population (47%) said dating was more difficult than a decade earlier. 67% of those looking for love report that they do not enjoy dating.
Why is the divorce rate so high among the younger generation?
Joel says, “I believe you should communicate with each other and look each other in the eye to see if you are compatible. ”
Couples from all generations must overcome obstacles. The old cliche that communication is key seems to be true, despite its cliche.
Mr. Kutnick had a profound insight into the discussions couples have during their time together.
Joel said, “It was the best decision we ever made. “
